I do understand that it is a real effort for you to lose weight and that it requires a lot of thinking to do things differently.
Apologies for seeming to "keep on" over certain ideas. I do try to only mention something again if I am aware of a new perspective, though sometimes I repeat ideas because the forum does have a changing membership. I wouldn't presume to give advice, but do hope that some of the suggestions might resonate with you (and anyone else) as something worth thinking about / trying.
I have mentioned before that I wish that the forum had more discussion on weight management issues. It is useful to hear other perspectives - gives one food (!!) for thought.
Regarding your comment that I presumably find it a real effort to not eat chocolate - certainly if I start eating chocolate, it can be an effort to stop at a reasonable quantity. So not starting is the better option, and of late this seems to be not so much of an effort. Not exactly sure why.
However, reflecting on your comment has made me realize that it is "just" a habit for me to eat in the evenings. I may be eating for reward, comfort, pleasure, etc, but it is habit that means I turn to food for these needs, rather than (perhaps!) more healthy alternatives. A moment of enlightenment for me, I think?!
Did you find anything useful in the book about habits? And with the eating habits that you have been able to change (for the better), what helped you do that? Once something is a habit, then the theory is that it no longer requires effort - but this is not your experience?
I think the daily tip about what is more of a burden - being overweight or taking steps to change that - is very salient.
Anyway, enough from me.
I would be very interested to hear the thoughts of others on this topic.