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I started this as a reply to someone else's post and thought it should be here instead and maybe on the inspirational stories section.

I think I have done WW 7 times and Slimming World 9 times. That is an awful lot of money over the years. The number of attempts may be higher. I have ALWAYS put the minuscule amount of weight back on plus its friend, because I couldn't carry on with the constant guilt trips because I caved in and had a biscuit, which turned into the whole packet of biscuits.

I have been on anti-depressants because my feelings of failure, due to my weight, spread into the rest of my life. At one point I was on the verge of divorcing my (utterly lovely) husband because I thought he must be a pervert of some kind for actually wanting to have sex with the blob I had become, my self loathing was so extreme.

I became my weight, I was judged, by others, in my own mind on nothing but my weight. I assumed people were being nice to my face then being bitchy behind my back. Any compliment given to me HAD to have a hidden meaning, even the compliments about my weight loss were a barbed stab at the fact that I still had loads left to lose. I was a wreck and had given up with weight loss, even to the extent that the knowledge that I had to lose weight for surgery, or be paralysed had me putting on weight in sheer fear of giving up my psychological prop. The self loathing was well hidden, but it was there.

I have been a serial dieter and a failure at standard diets for 30 years, from before my eldest child was even a twinkle in my eye. I have only got down to my target weight twice in my life and that was after the births of my first two children. (they are 27 and 25 now). This way of eating is so NOT a diet that its a workable solution to mine and your weight problems.

What is so different about this way of eating. Its the lack of guilt. If you mess up a fast day, you at least have tried that day and there is always tomorrow. The thought that its only one day and that tomorrow you CAN have whatever is haunting you, is doable. Even I can be very, very good, as long as its one day at a time. All that, plus the fantastic support from everyone on this forum.

All you have to lose is guilt, a sense of failure and excess fat baggage. Give it a solid try, don't give up in fear of what ifs, that is not the way anyone should live.