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That this person may no longer care enough about her self and to walk around the supermarket with a too short too tight t shirt. She was running a marathon just trying to walk the aisles. Oh the chafing she would suffer. She was morbidly obese and to be in that mind that all that flesh is showing, (too tight clothes) and not seem to care, she may, I dont know.
I felt for her, I was not repulsed, just sad. That she is at this point on her journey.

Thank God I never got that far. I was always bemoaning the fact that manufacturers and designers didn't make the t'shirts long enough to cover the wobbly bits. Mind you the cheap fashionable places just don't do the very large clothes, to stay in fashion if young she would have had to buy too smal, even Next which has a large department can be too expensive for some.

But what do you do? Stalk them until you can subtly sidle up to them and start talking about fasting? You would either embarrass the life out of her or scare her out of her wits.

Was she young? I have found that the younger you are the more flesh you are prone to show, no matter that the amount of flesh can be too much.

Yes, Julie, I always think that these young women just want to be in style, want to dress like their contemporaries. Then I think of Kate Smith back in the 40's and 50's--a very heavy woman, but always so dignified in her dress: https://www.google.com/search?q=kate+sm ... 75&bih=653

but not at all stuffy in her personality.

@Julieathome- I think this woman was roughy 35-40 years old. She was not trying to be fashionable at all. She was struggling and looked poorly, but lots of flesh showing.
I guess I can't say because i'm not in her shoes, but how do you get the game enough to go out, with all that excess flesh exposed? Maybe she has no choice.

I think we have all seen that situation. It is happening more I think as people at the lower end of the income levels have to eat cheap, processed food (maybe they don't really know how to cook?) which exacerbates the weight gain, and has no money to buy new bigger clothes so is bursting out of her old clothes.
Either that or she really did think she was looking good?
There is no knowing what their thoughts are, unless you offer them a chance to chat and how many of us have the time for that? I have stood near very overweight people and butted in when I hear them talking about their weight and then suggested 5:2. But the chance to do so doesn't happen that often.

I know what you mean zamale. I am definitely no fashion guru but I inwardly cringe sometimes when I see what some people, men as much as women, choose to wear in public. Always makes me wonder whether they have a mirror at home as surely if they could see for themselves the image they present they wouldn't step outside the door!
A larger size or body shape doesn't mean you can't look stylish if you choose clothes that flatter and disguise your bad points.
It really saddens me to see young mums, usually with a couple of young children and a baby in a pram eating chips or pastries in the street and flaunting their bulging midriffs for all the world to see. Maybe I'm just an old fuddy duddy though and should be more tolerant.

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I don't want to sound mean or bitchy, but I have known a couple of lovely ladies who seem to wear very tight and not very flattering clothes. It's a bit like they look in the mirror and see something else. I was in debenhams with my v slim 12 yr old daughter when we saw a large 15-16 yr old with a very short skirt on. Unfortunately on top she was wearing a crop top which wasn't big enoug to cover her back fat. I just felt so sad, her mother wasn't much better. People were staring and that made me feel terrible.My husband keeps telling me that I've got a great figure and I should let it loose now and then, but it's hard to convince myself that I'm not flopping about everywhere.

Rather sad, but on the same subject

http://izismile.com/2010/11/05/what_you ... _pics.html

There but for the grace of God, go I.

Buying processed food is a lot more expensive than to cook something from scratch. And I don't talk about sophisticated food, only the basics.

Some women think they look good that way, and believe me, I saw my share of too tights jeans where you had a muffin top and the tiny ti shirt just above a wobbly belly button....

I never was in this situation, even with no money to buy clothes. Except my cleavage, I really don't feel comfortable exposing myself being a bit self conscious

But, "il faut de tout pour faire un monde", as we say....

Yes an interesting subject on many levels. Lots of young girls wearing slutty clothes with fat hanging out everywhere, I'm not sureif they don't have a full length mirror in the house, whether it's just peer pressure to look the same or if they have no idea how they look or if they don't care? On the other hand I get on the train every afternoon in my dog walking clothes, bit smelly I'm sure, bit muddy from being greeted by many dogs and I don't care. On the flipside of our judgement, I remember many years ago when I was painting my apartment, I popped out to get more paint...and got sidetracked into a clothes shop, in my paint splattered clothes. When I went to pay with my gold Amex card, she called them to say she thought it was stolen!!!! She was very embarrassed as was I...well I was more pissed actually, when they told her to put it thru. Never judge a book... So I guess we don't know what's happening, only that we don't find it attractive.

When much younger and with my first husband, we went to a store to order a microwave which at that time cost an astronomical amount.
The salesman totally ignored us to spend a half hour talking to a couple about a kettle. He eventually had to get to us and the body language was 'oh well lets waste my time then'. So we went through the rigmarole of looking at various models, ummed and ahh'd and eventually chose one. The saleman automatically pulled out the loan agreement form (I told you it was when they were new and cost a lot), for then hubby to pull out his wallet flash a wad of twenties and say "it's Ok I've enough cash" The salesmans jaw dropped (it was more than his months wages after all), it dropped even further when then hubby put his wallet back and said" but I don't like the discrimination you showed us" and we walked out.

Maybe it was the clothes we wore and the vehicles we arrived on. Two leather clad bikers on two bikes aged only 19. Discrimination I would say.

@Julieathome-Good for you to stick it to the salesman. I admire leather clad folks, resembles liberation,reconnection with the OH and free time to do the things you enjoy, actually a bit of a dream to get in leather on bikes and ride the coast. Wont be happening for some time if at all. Just a dream. I see folks in leather and wish.

My partner ride his motorbike and I never find him sexier than with his motor gear (well, almost.... )

The saddest part with the girls I saw was they were very very young, around 15, they were dressed as I described, have a very very heavy makeup and everybody around was laughing at them. It was really sad and I wander how parents can let their kids go out with that kind of clothes.

When I was a teenager, a long long long time ago, I know I dressed sometimes really bad - it was the 80s.... just saying.... - but never to the point that I was laughing at because the fluorescent colors and weird patterns were trendy at the time