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Hey all, sorry, about to have a moaning moment.
I've been good on fast days, but on the other days I've been eating pretty badly.
Today (non fast) I'm feeling pretty rubbish.
I had a cookie with lunch (bad move 1), then we went for Nandos but I had a salad, but then I walked home just now... once again my journey was interrupted by the intrusion of some horrid men. 4 drunk men blocked my path and kept talking to me and trying to give me this bunch of flowers (the guy had brandy in his other hand and an accent I could barely understand). I just laughed and thanked him, and pretended I had a boyfriend, eventually he stopped following me a bit further up the road.
Then got annoyed at myself for not standing up for myself, as I always have that problem, then even more annoyed realising that would have just made things worse. (How unfair is that, by the way?! intimidated into pretending its okay to feel like that.)
Anyway, on the way home I dropped in and bought a huuuge chocolate bar and ate the lot. Now I feel sick and guilty that I gave into yet another craving and still quite shaken.
Sorry for the negativity, just felt like I had to get it out somewhere xxx

Hi:

If your avatar is a picture of yourself, you are sooooo young, and so hard on yourself!

You got through a dangerous situation beautifully, but were rightfully upset. Eating a chocolate bar should be viewed as a victory celebration, not a failure (personally, I'd have had some good whiskey).

You have a long time to incorporate 5:2, or some variation, into your life. It will not happen quickly, or painlessly. You can do it if you want. Give yourself a chance!

Good Luck!

Put it behind you @tinamacarina Forget it and thank your lucky stars you got home unscathed and I'm not surprised you scoffed all the chocolate I think I would have!!!!
Tomorrow's another day and you probably haven't done to much damage. But forget you must because it will eat away at you and make you worse have an early night.

Well, after all that, I think you have every right to feel down. Good on you for managing to share things with us. I'm so sorry to hear about the awful experience you have just had - sending supportive hugs your way.

On the food front - you have only done what I & many others would have done.....head straight for the chocolate. Today is only one day - it won't ruin your whole 5 2 journey - so go easy on yourself, forgive yourself & look to the future. You are not the first person to slightly overdo a non-fasting day....and it is not the end of the world. The circumstances were extreme & scary & I am so very sorry it happened to you. To my mind, it is not surprising you reacted the way you did. I am glad you are OK & safe now. Tomorrow is another day......

Look after yourself....& keep posting xx

[wildmissus]

Tina, well done in managing the incident.

In the early days fasting many of us overate on non fast day to start with. Don't worry it tends to settle down and you appetite changes.

However even though I've been doing it for over a year and although I don't overeat any more I am finding that I am now making a concious effort to change my carbohydrate intake. If you eat simple carbohydrates - white bread, pasta, rice, chocolate, biscuits, etc then you crave more. Personally I am trying hard to limit wheat and if I have any it is whole grain/seeded and instead of going for high carb snacks I always have a bag of mixed nuts/almonds/plenty of cheese/olives in the house to nibble on instead and no cravings.

Having said that I'm only human and all I've done today is eat chocolate . Well as we often say on this forum - tomorrow is another day.

Yep, I ate sh!t (best way to describe it) on feed days for ages, never cheated on fast days & got through that phase. Took several months, small victories, implement ed change slowly and got to a new "normal" where mostly I eat well.

Be good enough to sustain the WOE, perfection will set you up for failure.

Discretion is the better part of valour in unsafe situations. Get some CBT or assertiveness training for daily bravery but this wasn't the time.

Hey all, sorry, about to have a moaning moment.
I've been good on fast days, but on the other days I've been eating pretty badly.
Today (non fast) I'm feeling pretty rubbish.
I had a cookie with lunch (bad move 1), then we went for Nandos but I had a salad, but then I walked home just now... once again my journey was interrupted by the intrusion of some horrid men. 4 drunk men blocked my path and kept talking to me and trying to give me this bunch of flowers (the guy had brandy in his other hand and an accent I could barely understand). I just laughed and thanked him, and pretended I had a boyfriend, eventually he stopped following me a bit further up the road.
Then got annoyed at myself for not standing up for myself, as I always have that problem, then even more annoyed realising that would have just made things worse. (How unfair is that, by the way?! intimidated into pretending its okay to feel like that.)
Anyway, on the way home I dropped in and bought a huuuge chocolate bar and ate the lot. Now I feel sick and guilty that I gave into yet another craving and still quite shaken.
Sorry for the negativity, just felt like I had to get it out somewhere xxx

Sounds to me like you did fine.

Where did you think you didn't stand up for your self? A group of ginned up idiots were trying it on a bit. There was no need to make WW3 out of it....and you didn't. You just sent them packing.

The diet? Pick it up the nxt day you can.

Oh and talking of that avatar...

[Tracieknits]

Your BMI is healthy. An occasional treat is not going to destroy you. Perhaps make yourself take a bit of an extra walk in the morning to compensate and then be done with it

As for the guys- the most important thing is to get away safely, and you did that. So well done! It's not your fault they're disgusting predators, and it's not your responsibility to put them in your place when you're outnumbered and vulnerable. If you wanted to make a stink, you could have always called the police once you got safely home and had them go pay a visit to the men.

But don't be so hard on yourself!

Thank you so much, all. Each of you has made me feel so much better. I'm feeling better now I'm home and safe and you say I did the best thing.
As for 'tomorrow's another day': so it is. Bring it on. Run first thing I think, cos it makes me feel good and it's for ME!
Thanks again I hope you're all having lovely days/evenings xxxxxx