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This is going to sound really whingey and really silly but I'm due to return to work the week after next and I'm inches away from a real panic attack

I've had 12 months maternity leave with my second son and I'm sure I felt as stressed when I went back after my eldest but I can't remember. My baby has just had his 1st settling in session (15 mins) with the nursery and it went as well as could be expected. I popped into work and everyone was so nice and I felt comfortable there. But as I drove home I just seemed to sink deeper and deeper into a zone of panic (to the point I realised my 3 year old had been talking and I'd not heard a word he'd said). Now I just feel sick... What an absurd overreaction, I know! I'm only going back 2 days a week!!! I'm sure once I'm actually back I'll be fine, get past the apprehensiveness of the waiting to go back.

Sorry for rant, just needed to get my stress verbalised (or typed!) and out of my system.

I'm still at home with my second, but I'm planning to go back to work in September and I'm sure I'll be a wreak, I was with my first in any case!

I'm sure that once you get the first day over with everything will be fine and you'll feel like you never left, but in the mean time you're fully entitled to panic!

When is your first day back?

Week on Wednesday (29th), son will be 1 next Wednesday 22nd. I should be grateful for a whole year off, I went back after 8 months my 1st, but I'm sure I'm more stressed this time :0(

I'll probably be more stressed too, I did 8 months with my first and it was fine after the first day, but this time I'll have been at home with my daughter for 20 months before I go back, eek!

My guess is that once the little one is more settled in nursery you'll feel a bit better...

Thank you, Nicky x

So vebnorahs - do you feel better about going back to work now, or worse?? Has the litte one settled into nursery?

A bit calmer now thanks Nicky.

Although, 2nd settling in session at nursery went really badly, I sat in my car for the 30 mins listening to him screaming :0(. He was supposed to do 60 mins on Thursday but I cancelled it because he hadn't napped so was too tired for it to be successful. I'm back at work on Wednesday but my mum's looking after the boys. Fist session is Friday and I feel no better about that one, but I'm sure it'll be fine (crossing fingers!). The sad thing is though, he was independent before and now when I leave him alone in a room he cries and crawls after me :0(.

On the plus side, I got my uniform out and it's too big :0D, I feel fine about Wednesday though.

My goes out to you. Hope it all settles for you and your little ones. I remember only too well the angst working f/t with a little one but we do the best we can vebnoraha

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, I'm sure it'll be fine. I remember my son becoming very clingy around the time he started nursery and not wanting to let me out of his sight even to sleep but it soon settled down, luckily kids are pretty resilient.
Great for the uniform, you'll have to get a smaller size now!