You all know how this past year has been tough. The first anniversary of my dad's passing is just around the corner, and I am "good" with that, I have now a healthy and deep relationship and am in a much better place than I was only weeks ago. This time last year I was with someone I didn't really know. I thought he was awesome, in fact he was rude, loving to treat me like I was nothing and even told me that "you're not the first person to lose her dad, deal with it". He also loved to humiliate me in public (when I saw him just a few days after the funerals, he told me "I had a stressful week, smile, be graceful fro god sake !" . I didn't leave him at the time because I was a coward and I couldn't deal with another big change. So we stayed that way. However in September,he decided to "punish me" and to "give me a lesson" and cut all contact for a month. You can imagine how stressful it was to deal with that. I didn't saw him until december, so 3 months later. He told me, at the time, that he wanted me to wake up and that's why he did it. Except, during that time I just get rid of all the feelings I had for him.
Around that time I met my actual partner. He's the complete opposite. 30 years younger than him, kind, thoughtful, incredibly sexy and as tall blonde with beautiful blue eyes as the other one is smallish brown eyes and white hair. One is delicate and is very cuddly and gentle, the other is thick and in your face. One I love with all my heart and share a deep connection with, the other one I just despise now.
I told my ex it was finished and we didn't saw each other since December and all would be fine and dandy except I learned today that he doesn't believe it's finished. He wants to see me next week (and I mean he wants to SEE me, if you know what I mean) and he just wrote an email basically saying that he couldn't thank me enough for my patience. For him, I can have someone on the side as long as he doesn't know
How do you deal with someone who doesn't want to admit the truth ? How can I get rid of him once and for all ? I told him, I was really really clear, It's OVER. He know I am with someone else, someone with who things are getting really really serious. I don't understand how men works...... Is that when they feel that you are out of their reach that they have the hunter in them that goes wild ?
So sorry for the rant, I prefer to do that here and not freak out in front of my lovely who doesn't need to deal with all my baggage right now