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@Betsysgr8 Be sure to holler if there is anything we can do for you. Hope to see you back soon!

[Betsysgr8]

Thank you all for your messages and support.

Where to begin? I guess it all started Jan. 1st, my brother-in-law (sisters husband), Bob, was hospitalized with breathing problems, then Jan. 5th I had a call from my other brother-in-law (late husbands brother) that his wife was very ill and probably wouldn't make it, packed up and drove straight through (nearly 24 hours) to Texas and arrived in time for them to take Denise off life-support and she passed a few minutes later. Got home from Texas and Bob now in intensive care and in a coma, there were some complications when they tried to move his breathing tubes and his heart stopped and they had to do an emergency tracheostomy and he wasn't waking up after stopping the sedatives. In mean time, my sister Bonnie (Bob's wife) was needing assistance because she was rapidly being blinded by cataracts, so I was doing what I could to help her, taking her to see Bob and meeting with his doctors, her doctor's appointments, shopping etc. This went on for a few weeks, Jan. 25th my BF Peter went upstairs to the apartment above my garage where his best friend Curtis was renting and ran back down to have me call 911 (emergency/paramedics), blood everywhere, he was an alcoholic and something had given up inside and he was vomiting blood, his heart stopped just as paramedics arrived, got him to the hospital but nothing could be done and he passed. Just 2 days after he turned 53. Meanwhile, it was determined that Bob was brain-dead and should be removed from life-support, he passed Feb. 6th the day we held Curtis' memorial service. Bob's funeral with full military honor guard was Feb. 17th. Back to shuttling Bonnie around for her appointments, her cataract surgery failed because she had had previous damage to her eye and needed a more specialized surgeon and lens, so then she was even more blind than before. Around end of Jan. my 84 year old mother got shingles, on her face. So then I was also driving 70 miles to Mom's to care for her off and on as she needed. March 11th I went to stay with mom because she wasn't feeling very good at all, ready to take her to hospital but she said she would go the next day, I then got a call from my brother, Bruce, on March 12th that he had to call the paramedics for my sister Bonnie. Took Mom to doctor while we were waiting for word on sis, doc said Mom doing pretty good for all that was wrong. Finally, got word that Bonnie had same thing happen to her as what had happened to Curtis (Bonnie alcoholic too). They couldn't stop the bleeding and she passed the next day on March 13th. I stayed with Mom for a few more days (my older sister and another brother were with mom when I left) I was to return on Saturday. Tuesday, March 18th, I got a call from my brother, Mom was down and paramedics were trying to revive her, they couldn't do anything to bring her back and Mom passed 12 hours before her 85th birthday.

We are planning back to back funerals, my sister's scheduled for April 12th and trying to get Mom's confirmed for April 11th. It's been a helluva a year so far and I can only hope and pray this is all done for awhile. I am now trying to pack up my house and move to my Mom's house while my brothers and sister try to pack up Mom's. I will be living there as a caregiver to my younger brother. I'm not sure when I'll be able to spend time here again but I will try to pop in now and again when I can.

Love and miss you all,
Betsy

[carieoates]

Words Fail me luv. Take care now

@Betsysgr8My God what a year you have had. I hope you have some support around you for yourself.Sending you all best wishes and look after yourself

I am lost for words for you @betsygr8. I was only thinking of you yesterday.
So sorry to her of your losses and condolences are inadequate. Keep strong and we look forward to welcoming back when you feel good and able. Huge hugs xx

Dear god, what you have had to endure! Prayers, hugs & thoughts to you & all of yours as well as condolences for your losses. Blessings.

I am so sorry to hear about your losses @Betsysgr8 - my heart goes out to you and your family - sending you big hugs and my prayers

[wildmissus]

Like others words fail me. I hope you are looking after yourself. Big hugs.

Oh @Betsysgr8 I am so terribly sorry. There are no words to adequately convey what I want to say, but please know that you are in my thoughts and I am sending warm hugs.

Bless you xx

[carorees]

Betsy, this is terrible. I am so, so sorry. What an awful time you have been having. To deal with one bereavement is hard enough, but this...I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through.

Please look after yourself and do pop in hear to vent your feelings whenever you want. In my experience, talking about it to strangers can help more than talking to family oddly enough.

Sending you lots of hugs.

[Tracieknits]

I was so excited to see you had posted -- and I just cannot believe the horror you've had to endure the past few months!! I'm so sorry sweetie! Is there anything we can do to help?

Not sure what to say, but sending big ((((((hugs)))))

Please pop in whenever you need a friend

OMG!!! @Betsysgr8 What can anyone say
certainly nothing that can help you other than we're all here for you whenever you want or need someone to talk to.
You've lived a nightmare situation this year alone and my thoughts and prayers are with you, its so nice to see you back I just wish the circumstances different for you.
Take real good care of yourself Betsy.
Sue♥

Oh lordy. I'm so, so sorry. What a hearbreaking time you are having. Sending you love and light as I do not know what to say.

Just want to echo others' sentiments Betsy at your tragic losses this year. It must be so hard dealing with the grief and having all the practical elements to deal with too. All my love and give yourself time to recover.