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When I've lost weight in the past, people will say to me, "You look so much better!"

I've also gotten, you look just like so and so. Then I go look at so and so, and the only thing we have in common is that we are fat - in no other way do we "look just alike."

Boys used to ask me for my sister's phone number so they could call her for a date (she is thin).

Just recently, someone shouted out of their car at me because they were passing too fast by me on my bike, and I shouted hey, give me some space, your car is a weapon! And they said, "move your fat ass."

Thunder thighs from .... my mother!

Your boobs are so big they are gross.... from my mother!

I no longer have anything to do with my mother.

I'm feeling a whole heap better after unloading my little story, thanks everyone. I hope those who posted their experiences also feel better for unloading. Some of the comments are really hard to forgive. Eg the ones from Julie's mother - I hope Julie you have been able to put that behind you.

Confession time - I once asked a girl if she was pregant when she was just a bit overweight. It wasn't so much her size as misunderstanding something she had said. But to make it even worse, her response was "No, I'm only 15". (She looked at least 24). Oh groan and mortification! I hope and pray she didn't store that up as something to fret about, when it was just my own stupidity. Something for me to remember before I take offence at others!

When I was pregnant with my son I had a small bump (wide hips) and even when I used public transport the day before my son was born no one ever gave up their seat for me, and I remember a colleague saying when I mentioned going on maternity leave thzt he thought I might be pregnant but he was worried I had just put on weight so didn't say anything!

Otherwise in terms of comments my dad used to call me chubby and once said he always knew I was going to be a big girl. He also called me a hippo because of my big hips.

My darling little brother's nickname for me when we were teenagers was 'Carol the barrel'. Says it all really though as he was a 6' beanpole and I was a 5' dumpling!

When my sister and I were teenagers, our mother made the "two peas on an ironing board" comment about our flat chests. Dressing to go out to a prom, we got the "your arms will never look this good again" remark. My late husband sometimes called me "Selma Shanks" in regard to my thighs (which actually were perfectly ok) I was good to him during his long terminal illness, but was left with a lot of anger afterwards because of his critical comments. So grateful for my loving and kind OH now.

My sister's late husband used to call her "lard butt" when she was in a heavy phase. During his final illness he tried to apologize for being such a critical husband--she said "Sorry, too late" I'm glad that she, too, is now very happily remarried.

Living well is the best revenge.

I've never been really overweight but I reached puberty early and so towered over my peers, including the boys! I'll always remember being called 'cumbersome' by someone I particularly disliked anyway!

I also met up with someone I went to school with, some 20 years down the line before Facebook. She didn't recognise me then said 'But you were so chubby!'

I've seem the photos, reveiwed the evidence and I WASN'T!!!!!!!! I had a skewed self image for a long time though. I always try to consider other peoples feelings - not everyone does.

My ex used to call me spanish bacon because there's more fat than meat. haha I can't believe I used to just laugh it off and call him a cheeky so and so. He even use to do it in front of others and then explain it. In the end I realized it was all about control and belittling me. Thank god I woke up and kicked him to the cerb. He was so sure I'd stay with him and not have the courage to finish with him. Told me I'd never fine anyone else. Well he could have been right about that as I still haven't. But I still say I got the last laugh. I'm happy.
Dee

I've been told a few times that it doesn't matter how heavy I am I still have a beautiful face! Apparently it's a compliment!

[wildmissus]

Where do I start, I'm a sensitive soul.

Just like @shachat I've been asked on numerous occasions 'when's the baby due' and got into the way of replying 'I'm just fat' as result the other person was more embarrassed than me. I know people mean well but it hurt.

My friend and her kids and me and my girls went on a caravan holiday one easter. She was telling me how her other friend had asked her to go on holiday but she said she couldn't because she was so much slimmer than her. She is a friend at arms length now. Actually she is the friend that just noticed that I lost weight and kept commenting 'you've lost weight', not once did she say you look great. She persuaded me to go to the sailing club dinner dance with her as her husband works off shore. The dinner dance in next weekend and I think she might be worried that I might look better than her. (Yes, I know she is using me so she can go to the dinner dance but I haven't had a night out in a while and I've just agreed to become the treasurer of the sailing club so it's a good way to get to know more people).

As a child my father used to constantly say 'you are old enough and ugly enough to... This didn't hurt me, I just accepted it and as a result I was old before time and always considered myself ugly. Like @Julieathome my parents are no longer in my life.

A few weeks ago my work colleague was chatting to a customer about how as you get older it is harder to stay in shape. The woman said she was a size 14/16 just like my work colleague...oops, my work colleague is a curvy, hourglass, size 10.

Woman at work beamed brightly at me and said, So! When's your baby due?!

However, this story gives me some satisfaction because I had the presence of mind (very rare!) to smile sweetly and say, Oh, I'm not pregnant, I'm just very fat. To be fair, she was mortified. Did I feel guilty? Did I heck!

Ha!

I had a DOCTOR once ask me when I was due. I went in on my work break to get something for an eye infection and had to see a new doctor. Went through all the questions and then BOOM! When are you due?

I actually spluttered and asked him what he meant - maybe I misunderstood and he meant when was I due back at work?

Nope, he repeated. You're pregnant, when are you due?

Yeah, I joined WW that night and chucked the gorgeous empire-waisted top I'd been wearing that day ...

I've had many hurtful things said but the one that stuck with me and did the most damage was that my ex told me he would love me more and be more attracted to me if I was thin!! I was so devistated that I stopped eating

I've had many hurtful things said but the one that stuck with me and did the most damage was that my ex told me he would love me more and be more attracted to me if I was thin!! I was so devistated that I stopped eating

@daydreamer21 I'm glad to hear he's an EX!!