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[carieoates]

I'm a bit late on this sorry. Betsy. Sorting the house sounds like a very useful thing to do, especially as your sis is so house proud. Just think that you'll know what is right when the time comes. And I hope that her kids will ease her pain with their presence alone.

Betsy - all been said, and more, above. So just sending you hugs, as you need it too - and of course thinking about your family and the difficult times ahead.

Oh your poor sister, that's just terrible. You two sound close and just knowing you're with her through this will be a Godsend to her. Sisterly love is special. My thoughts are with you Betsy and big hugs.

What ever the circumstances, it is always very hard to actually come to terms with and there is nothing I can say, other than you are very lucky to have such strong, loving family bonds. Sending you all cyber hugs and the strength to cope with the next few hours and days. Ann x

@Betsysgr8 My thoughts and prayer's are with you at this awful time and you'll remember I was in exactly the same situation a couple of months ago doing the opposite as you've done here and it was YOU who "pulled" me out of hiding with a pm we're still clearing up all the mess left behind that's all we can do for him now.
You can only be there for your sister now and give her the support that you are giving she will appreciate that when her mind clears she'll remember you being there for her now and just as important the months to follow.
Big Hugs ♥ Sue x

[Moogie]

Sending one up for you right now Betsy xxx

Sending you and you sister best wishes that you get through this difficult time for you both.

So sorry to hear your sad news Betsy. You are such a kind and thoughtful person and I'm sure you will find the right words to say to your sister and family when the time comes. Just want to add my love and virtual support to you at this very difficult time. x

Oh Betsy you're being there with your sister will be such a comfort. You will just have to take each day as it comes. Am sure the things to do to support will just come naturally. The just being was a wonderful point made by debs. Hopefully the rest of the family will lighten the load for you as well. Thinking of you take care of you too

Hi Betsy x
I live by two cathedrals which are on both ends of a street called Hope,and tho i' m not religious i have a spiritual faith and believe in sending out a prayer while lighting a candle ....
Hope you won't mind Betsy if i use this space to send condolences to@angie090465 and her family in their sad loss ..will light a candle for your family too Angie x
Sending hugs xx

[wildmissus]

Oh Betsy, I'm so sorry to here this, you've been through so much already.

I do have a suggestion. Can you get your sister out for a walk, somewhere quiet, away from her house and hospital. You don't have to speak, you don't need to walk fast or go far. It just needs to be outside and somewhere reasonably nice.

This is something I did with my sister a few years ago when she was going through a difficult time. I took her to a local beach where we actually just stood around. We barely spoke but I could see her taking deep breaths and half and hour later she said that doctors should put this on prescription.

I also did it for my mother in law when my father in law was dying last year. She wouldn't leave his side at the hospital but I persuaded her to walk round the hospital grounds with me. It was a sunny day and you could see the difference in her.

Taking just a short time out seemed to give them both a little clarity.

I also agree that keeping her daily routine going is a good thing.

My thoughts are with you.

Thinking about you and sending a prayer right now.

It's so hard knowing you can't take away her pain; but you can, and are, being there for her. Both in practical ways, like the putting away the decorations, and just being there to listen to and hug her.
Sending you hugs too.

[Betsysgr8]

Thank you You all are such loving kind people and I'm feeling all the virtual hugs, support and prayers. @Angie090465 so sorry to read of your recent loss, here's a hug backatchya

Sending my thoughts and prayers also. Wildmissus' idea sounds like a great one - weather permitting!

Take Care, Betsy.