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Rest in peace, Richard.
Thx CM, 10 June 1919 - how bizzare it's Dads1st b'day today without him .... 'after you have gone'
We had a great day and emotionally beautiful. @Silverdarling with you, heart and love to you and your loved ones.
Your Dads first birthday away from home but back Home
Glad was a good day for you all..the firsts are hard..first bday,Christmas,first anniversary ,first Fathers Day etc
Love that video Liz! I had evening job as waitress in Lyceum London Old Tyme Music Hall and learnt all those old songs..many i already knew from my own Dad,who died v similar age to yrs..96
RIP Richard and all good old Dads,thanks for the memories xx
I miss all the singing and playing. Love to you and your Dad and family moments.
Yes bean along the Strand many a time since,as Dd and SIL lived in London for several years....now theyre back up North,so i dont know when i' ll get down there again. I miss London,i loveit! X
I am dreading father's day next Sunday and my dad's birthday July 11th which is as well the anniversary of the day I founded Boo as she was 3 weeks old. I guess it will help to focus on life.
My birthday was hard, I went to see my dad and just broke down in tears which I didn't do since his funerals. I couldn't stop crying so I know his birthday will be hard as well. I am not afraid about the first Christmas without him as Christmas is a normal day for me for years.
About my mom now.... She has dementia as you may know and we go to see a judge next monday to forward the protection proceedings. I don't see her very often in her home as it always ends with her insulting me or trying to emotionally blackmail me. It's pretty tough and even if I know that my "real mom" is not here anymore, I don't know how long I will be able to cope with the "new her". I don't know how long she will stay alive, some people say around the life expectency is around 4 to 5 years but I hope our relationship will be more peaceful at one point.
Is it cruel for me to say that I need to build my life and "move on" ?
Your Mum and Dad want you to live your life, take it forward and most importantly be happy so my advice is to do just that. It's great to hear you are moving forward in managing your Mum and her affairs, tough as it is to take on the responsibility that hopefully makes life easier for you short term.
We all lose our parents at some point; abandonment, adoption, fostering, accident, war, early unforeseen death..... I am a very fortunate person as is my family to date.
My father had dementia in his later years though we were able to have real conversations, share early memories and loving moments when his life window opened for me. They were very special, priceless moments where I learnt a lot about his childhood I never knew. Dad LOVED the memory book of his life we contributed to, it was his touch stone and helped him have the conversations he wanted to have with the 4 generations of his family and all his friends when they visited.
So while you are struggling with your Mum, a memory book worked for us to keep Dad's closing window OPEN.
Catch you soon.
About my mom, I really hope we will be able to pass the agressive stage. Which is reassuring, for me, is that she insults the nurses as well so it's not just because it's me, however it's exhausting. I would love to share some memories with her but it's impossible right now. To go and visit her is a chore, let's face it. Even when I go with Happy, (he's allowed in there) it doesn't really helps. I guess we'll see how it goes...
I found some pictures of my dad I never saw before. They were taken during WWII as he was born in 1941 and he's 7 weeks old on one of them. It's a nice founding before father's day.....
Except going to see him, I have no idea what I'll do on father's day yet...
Love and hugs to all carers, family and friends, wishing everyone peace this Christmas.
I wish my dad could know how much I miss him and how much it's still easy to deal with the fact he's not here any more. Not to make him feel guilty, just for him to know he really mattered for, at least, one.
Big big hug for all the carers and family and for those of us who have lost someone this year
I changed the arrangements this year, just as you say. Christmas Eve I'm hosting my DD and friends and Christmas Day I'm looking forward to just being me and that's cool, it's been a mega year.
I'll pop by to spend time with my elderly neighbour who is on her own. x
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