Hi, Gillrobo, I could have written your post myself! Like you, I have spent years putting on and taking off the same weight - in my case, 2 stone! I have always described myself as a 'great dieter but even greater eater!' I have never been one for slimming clubs, because of where I live, but have been an obsessive calorie counter during my thrice-yearly dieting phases.
When my husband and I started at the end of January, we both managed fasting fairly easily, but I still found myself obsessively counting and recording calories on non-fasting days (I can't think of them as 'feast' days). This went on for three weeks and then I decided that, if this was to be a new way of life for us, then this obsession I had to stop.
We went away for a week and I decided that I would allow myself to choose to eat anything that I wanted to. What I found was that I sometimes chose to eat cake and sometimes not. I have written elsewhere on here that I chose to eat only half a pizza because I decided that I was full - something I have never done before! Since then, I have left chips on my plate, declined the offer of dessert, not finished the Pringles in the tube and countless other small miracles!
Calorie counting is no longer part of my life. Even on fasting days, I don't count in detail, simply 'guesstimate' based on years of experience! Today I chose to eat and enjoy a croissant, well two actually, and had some of my birthday cake. The difference now is that I haven't continued to eat everything in sight, thinking I have blown everything. I am hoping that this is the start of a new relationship with food and that this WOE is sustainable in the long term. Only time will tell!
Sorry if I have gone on rather a long time. It seems to be all about me, but I hope that it gives you some encouragement to try this WOE to change your life too. Keep us posted with your progress!