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I@azureblue to do this on a tablet on or an ipad is difficult and I am on one now. When next on laptop, I'll send you directions by pm x

Hi @Riel Sorry you're unhappy and we all get the feeling from time to time that were being ignored my advice is to have more of an input thus you reap what you sow ( not always true I know) but considering how long you've been a member you've not posted much.
That's not a criticism in any because I never thought I'd post anywhere near the amount I've done being this is my only forum but nevertheless I also feel ignored and some of my posts go unanswered and ignored, for me I try vertex hard not to ignore anyone because we're all here for the same reason me more than most with a start weight of a disgusting 19stones/266lbs so no-way are you alone an certainly shouldn't feel so, please keep in touch with forum life and join in the fun
and yes sometimes rubbish. Lol
My avatar should show my love of cats but we don't have our own at the moment just the occasional visitor.

Sue, you most eloquently wrote what I wanted to. We each start here with a blank card and we make of it what we will.

I know the answer to this.......... If you respond to the posts of others you will start to build relationships and other members will start to respond to yours. Go on the chatterbox and join in with whatever the chat is about at that time. I don't always get responses to my posts but it doesn't mean that no one is reading them. Just think how many unregistered visitors there must be. The only tent I have started is the decluttering one and that seems quite popular. Do you declutter? Join in there if that floats your boat and I will acknowledge your posts (not always straight away, so please be patient.) Please keep posting, I am sure you have a lot of valuable input

AB @AzureBlue ..the tag symbol is just above the smilies,to the top right of the box i' m typing in...second from the end of the long line saying code/ list etc...next to " spoiler"
Sorry dont know why you can't get Pixlr..i just went to Apps on my iPad and typed Pixlr in the search box x

I find since I started reading forums on my tablet that it is so much more effort to type responses that I often don't bother until I'm on my computer. I suspect many others are the same way, reading but not responding.

These mobile devices are reducing us all to communicating in tiny, low content sqibs. I miss the days when the online world expressed itself in multiple paragraphs.

Hi @Riel sorry to hear you feel left out, that is a shame. You just have to claim your space. Being able to tag is very important as you call people to your post and that usually but not always creates a response. Look over to the right on the screen when you have the reply box open and just above the smilies is the tag button. Just enter in the absolutely correct name of the person that you wish to read your post. Another way you can see that people are reading your posts is by the number of thanks you receive. Also thank people a lot when you agree with their sentiments it's another way of communicating on here.

You do have to be active on here I think to get a feeling of connection. So dive in and I for one will be more mindful of your posts. The other thing is spend time trawling around to find what you want to respond to as well. I usually keep up with what's happening on here using the active posts tab at the bottom of the home page.

I only really use my iPad. Also if I get busy I can be absent for days and am sure others are the same. Finally you can also send PM private messages if you want to connect more privately to anyone especially if what they have written has struck a chord with you.

[Debs]

I too back up what the others have said @riel, I joined roughly the same time as you and haven't looked back. Some post all the time. Others post occasionally when a subject touches a chord, others I see are on line and don't say a word.
The beauty of this forum is that it brings together so many disparate people from all over the world with shared goal, not always successfully it has to be said! But I stay here because people are so friendly and non-judgemental.
What are you interested in? What do you enjoy doing as I am sure there is a tent for you!

Hi @Riel, joining a community online, becoming a part of it, getting to know people takes time. Keep visiting and join in. I'm sure you will feel part of this community if you fight those negative thoughts and emotions. I think many of us have had to fight similar things. Give it a go.
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@@PennyForthem I think you missed the joke, cats "wag" their tales when they are Unhappy!

@Riel you are so right I have a cat and he gets up a such good tail wag when he is not happy as well as a grumpy face and a growl. His 'don't mess with me' persona and have seen him then do a rat a tat tat attack with one paw on what ever is annoying him. One has to respect his tail wags!

Hi @Riel

Please do start a cat lovers tent. I have never been in the WAGs tent I assumed it was all about dogs. Unfortunately I probably won't be able to upload photos of mine because I only ever come onto the forum on my tablet, and the photographs are sitting on the hard drives of the PC and laptop - much to the relief of the walkers and ramblers as I have thousands taken on walks.

Also being on the tablet means I don't post as much as I would if I did with 10 fingers on a proper keyboard. And it does feel like boarding school in the summer hols - are people on holiday, can't they log into the new site, don't they like the new site, have they just drifted sway and moved on as one does ..

Anyway as others have said, just keep posting about the diet or anything else that interests you. You won't always get a response but that Isn't because people don't like what you have said or are not interested - they may have been about to reply and then the phone goes ...

@Riel
I think I may have tagged you. Did it work?

Just thought of another good way to make connections........ Look out for newbies and then welcome them, being new and taking the plunge to make the first posting is quite hard for some people, just think how pleased they will be to see a warm welcome. Sue.Q does a lot of welcoming, she writes some lovely encouraging things. Have a go at that and make someones day

hi @Riel,

I'm sorry you seem to be suffering a lot, that really is awful for anyone. I'm wishing you heaps of hugs & cat-licks. I hope you can find a place where you feel comforted and comfortable. Feeling like we belong is such a basic universal human (and cat!) need. I wish you all the luck & best wishes in the world with your search for that.

You may not know this about yourself, but I think you're a really powerful person. How would I know? Well, for starters you have many of us replying to you here with various degrees of self-examination and contrition, wondering how I could have been more supportive and caring, and how I could have avoided seeming like I ignored you and caused you pain. But the way your write about your experience here, it sounds like you are blaming the whole forum group for your suffering - (more evidence of your power, if you want to take on the whole group at once). You may not realize that you are actually picking a fight. And I understand that that conflict might be the best kind of relationship you think you can get, or deserve, in life, but if I may offer my 2 cents' worth, I think you could do a whole lot better. I'll say it again: you are a very powerful person. If you started believing in yourself and in others as well, and giving them the benefit of the doubt, I think it might be a lot more of a satisfying way of making relationship & creating support for yourself than your current pattern. At the moment, people will possibly only approach you out of pity for your suffering - again, maybe not the best form of relating, or even what you want. But what would I know?

Good luck with your fasting, and with life in general!