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An update from Suchard007....
03 Oct 2013, 18:31
Hi fellow 5:2ers - sorry it's been so long since I've been in touch with some of the old names on here... My last post (at the end of June) was something along the lines of seeing less of me - due to having lost a lot of weight but also swanning off to Africa to house sit for some friends over the summer months. There's been more than a few traumas over the last few months, so forgive me if I fill you in a bit, just so you realise the reason for my absence.

We had an absolutely fabulous time away in Africa - hubby and I were house sitting for friends in Dar es Salaam for 6 weeks- our 3 grown up kids came out to join us for a fortnight half way through and we all went on safari together - had an amazing time. Memories to last a lifetime!!

While we were away Bob's (my husband) brother-in-law had had his twin brother come and stand in and take Bob's place on the building site over in Essex (they were doing a project together for a bit of fun, as well as hopefully some sort of financial investment) - well the day we flew home we were told that he had died whilst working on site the previous week and that the day we flew back was the day of his funeral. He was only 61 and it was a real shock. Things at home and amongst the family were, understandly, a matter of being in total shock. Bob's brother-in-law is having a really hard time of it as you can imagine - as twins they were incredibly close to each other - often speaking 3 or 4 times a day on the phone (previous to him being on site of course)

Then, just 10 days after getting home one of my best friends (aged 53) had an anerysm and also died instantly - leaving behind a husband and 2 girls (24 and 20).... I am absolutely stunned by it and it still doesn't seem to make any sense and doesn't seem real in so many ways. She was healthy, fit, aware of what she ate etc., etc., but had this time bombing ticking away inside her that no-one knew about. Absolutely tragic. She lived just half a mile away from me and together with 2 other girlfriends we saw a lot of each other - at least once a week, weekends away together a couple of times a year etc., etc., - so she's going to be a huge part of life that's missing for me

Our house was put on the market before we went to Africa and we've had to carry on with that, though it's not been easy. It went under offer last week and this weekend we went down to Whitstable house hunting and have, we think, walked into a house that we really love. We've put an offer on it which has been accepted and we have to move before Christmas - assuming surveys all go through OK etc. So.... somehow I've got to pick myself up and get back to normal asap as there's boxes to be packed etc. etc.

I've just not felt like being sociable with anyone or going out etc., etc., but I've been in contact with WildMissus and Doodle outside of this forum and I'm thinking that I should really give you all my reasons for not being active on the forum as I was previously.

I often think about the forum, but just can't bring myself to joining back in again at the moment. My weight has stayed the same as it was before going off to Africa - so I'm happy with that. My eating habits are far better than they were previously, but I'm not 5:2ing at the moment - there are days where I reckon I maybe eat 500cals or thereabouts, but I just can't seem to face up to doing a full liquid only fasting day. Anyway, my weight is constant so that's got to be a good thing. I'm still 4stone lighter than I was a couple of years ago, so I know my body is thankful for that.... I also know that I will at some stage in the future get back to 5:2 proper (still got at least 1 stone to go before I reach goal weight) but, in the meantime, I just feel like comfort food with the situation the way it is at the moment and the thought of the winter months and dark evenings doesn't help either.

So 5:2ers, you'll have to excuse my inane contributions to the forum for a while longer. In the meantime good luck to you all - it's great to see the membership has grown so much over the last few months - and I love the Before and After photo section - what an amazing bunch of people - inspiration galore for everyone. I'll dip in and out of the forum ..... maybe that'll get me back in the swing of things. :clover:
{{{+}}} big hugs and my word what a year you are having. So glad you are ok, though such harrowing times with inevitable stress test resilience to the limit.
Very best of luck with your house move to a fine town and do visit here when you can, we like to know how our Forum Family are progressing :0)
My sincere sympathy to you and your family and friends. Such losses are so hard to deal with coming out of left field as it were. I wish all the best to you concerning your move also.

Please take care and drop in as you feel able. ***HUGS***
Thank you Suchard for your up date. I have missed you but fully understand your situation.

Wow, how nice having a new start in a new house. Lots to do!

Please keep in touch. We will all be here for you.

Lesley :heart:
Lovely to hear from you again but sorry that you've had some horrible things to deal with recently. I do hope your house move goes well and look forward to seeing you here again soon :)
Hi Suchard,

How lovely to hear from you although some of your news has been rather shocking and tragic for you and your family so my heartfelt condolences on that front.

Great to hear that your weight is stable and you are happy with a new way of eating, yes, you will pick it up when you feel more like it and it will be like getting in touch with an old friend when you do.

Moving house is always stressful yet exciting at the same time so I hope things go smoothly for you on that front and that Christmas in your new home brings you and your family peace and happiness.

Do take care of yourself and I look forward to you being back on here on a regular basis but in the meantime, thank you for the update, you have been missed,

Ballerina x :heart:
Oh Suchard!
I'm so sorry for your loss hun! Everyone is here for you if you ever need to talk. I wish you all the best with your move and your new beginning.

Love and peace :heart:
Dreamer x
Hello Suchard - thanks for the update and so sorry to hear about things currently ... so pleased to hear tho that your weight is stable with little or no effort on your part, especially given your current circumstances. Good luck with the move, and hope it provides a new start for you all. Look forward to hearing how things are going for you - do keep posting when you can. We will all be thinking about you, and sending good vibes your way. :heart: :clover: :victory:
Hi Suchard, so please you've come back to the forum. Remember we don't just talk about 5:2 on here and you don't need to be 5:2ing to give advice which you are so good at. :hugleft: :hugright:
Oh Suchard I was only thinking of you yesterday and wondering how you were going. Thank you for taking the time to update. Very tragic news I am so sorry to hear of your double loss. Take good care of you right now

Moving house is big also so that will keep you busy. So hope your move goes well for you.

Am glad you are managing re new habits from 5:2. We are here if you want a cheer up and some support.
Wow, what a few months you've had. The time in Dar would have been amazing, but really not very nice for you after that. Hope your move goes well, and you're able to work through your grief losing your friend and your BIL's twin.

Thank you for letting us know where you're at, I've missed seeing your chirpy avatar.
Oh Suchard, what a time you've been having, I'm so sorry for the losses you have experienced so suddenly!

We have missed you here, but can understand that you might need some time to get everything sorted before you feel like coming back.

I'm glad that you are able to look back on your holiday as an amazing experience and I hope this brings some comfort to you. Also, good luck with the house move!
What a rollercoaster of a time you've had.
I remember your post saying what a fantastic opportunity to go to Africa and I'm so pleased that lived up to expectations.
On the downside, bereavements are so hard to deal with and my heartfelt condolences to all friends and families.

But a new house? In Whitstable? (my friend will be absolutely livid green with envy!!) How lucky you are to find a new home you love.

And lastly, who needs 5 2 at the moment with everything in your life? It'll be there waiting for you when you're ready to pick it up again (and feel mentally strong enough). And us old bods? (er hum speaking personally there folks!!), yes, we'll be there too, waiting with open arms xx
Hi suchard and Welcome Back :heart: :heart:
So So very sorry to hear of your tragic losses, and I'm sure we all understand you being reluctant to joining back into the forum so take your time in doing so and remember were all here for yo, all the very best wishes to you and all your family :clover: Sue. :clover:
izzy wrote: Suchard, I too have wondered how you were. I am truly sorry to read of your sad losses, and send my sincere condolences.

I wish you the very best, and I hope all goes well for you in your new home. Take good care of yourself. xx

I'm at a loss for words so I shall borrow Izzy's and all the preceding posts to say what I feel and would want to say, if I had words. :heart: :clover: :heart:
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