The FastDay Forum

Hi All,
I've been away for a few months. I found out I was pregnant in November which was a longed for result. However I sadly lost the baby over Christmas (7weeks), and have been wrestling with the inevitable depression that comes with such a loss. I started running to help deal with my awful dark mood and am now on week 4 of Couch to 5k.

I'm not sure I'm quite ready to tackle 5:2 just yet, but I'm trying to give 16:8 a go, however I don't really lose weight on 16:8, just seem to maintain. I'm also not sure whether running make you put on weight, but it definitely makes me feel great. So I did a weigh-in this morning and I'm 1.2kg heavier & 2 cm bigger round my waist then last weigh-in in November. My first goal is to get to back to Novembers figures, before I start back on my original goals.

My mood has definitely lifted some, although I'm just generally very sad as it took almost a year to get pregnant this time. In a few months I'll be 42 and I just don't think I have another year of trying left in me. In the meantime I'm trying to find anything I can to distract me from the ticking clock.......

Oh Scubelle! My heart goes out to you - what an incredibly enormously difficult time. I hope you have a good support system around you.

I think you sound amazing - getting out there and starting with some running goals. Just focusing on maintaining and your general health is a great place to start.

Wish I had words if wisdom, but some things are just so difficult that there's nothing much to say apart from that there are many people here so very willing to hear how you're going, good and bad.

Hugs to you xo

Scubelle I'm so sorry. I am glad to hear you are starting to feel a bit better. I doubt running would make you put on weight and if it makes you feel good then keep running.
Remember we are all here if you need an ear or two.

Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are amazing to be able to motivate yourself to start running - hats off to you.

I have to say that it is a very good thing to be doing as it will definitely lift your mood & you will get a great and well-deserved sense of achievement. It will also tone you up really well - something to remember whenever the scales aren't as kind as they might be, because they are only part of the story. Muscle weighs heavier than fat anyway, so as you gain muscle, you may gain weight...but tone up beautifully. The fitter & healthier you are, the better shape you will be in for trying to conceive again. The most important thing to say though, is to be kind to yourself right now. Go with the flow & please don't put yourself under any pressure or take on too much.

Keep in touch with us as we are all willing you on!

Take care xx

[carieoates]

So so sorry about your loss, it is hard and believe me time is a great healer.
I lost one at 17 weeks and one at 8 weeks. Then got my now 12yr old daughter. The worry and stress involved with " trying" so hard to get pregnant is horrible I know that too. People tell you to relax and it will happen, but when you want it so much it's not easy to relax about it.

So keep up with the running to make that happy juice, and see what happens.
I am glad you are feeling better lately.

Thinking of you and sending massive hugs x
Well done on the running x make sure you eat well,plenty of good foods ...and good fats are needed to transport the vits and mins round your body to make sure youre well nourished
Keeping my fingers crossed for you x x

Thank you so much for your kind words Otter, Wineoclock, Hazelnut, Carieoates and Candicemarie. I definitely have good days and bad, even good hours and bad ones and just when you think you're over it all something happens and the sadness all come flooding back.

Its funny the support always seems to come from the most unexpected places. I also find that those close to me seem to think that I've moved on already and its all water under the bridge now, whereas there are a few friends who have not that close but who have been a huge support for some reason and continue to be so.

Carieoates you are right about the trying to conceive rollercoaster. The try, then wait, then believe your preg, then test, then period, then wait, then try and over and over for month after month. 17 weeks must have been very hard for you, I'm sorry. I lost one in my 20s at around 8 weeks, but I either recovered quickly or I have simply forgotten the emotions that surrounded me then. I also know that the circumstances were vastly different. In my 20s I was single, only really discovered I was preg when I was miscarrying and in some ways it was a relief IYKWIM.

I'm gearing up for a run this afternoon, and really quite looking forward to it esp as we have sun (and no rain) here for the first time in 2 weeks. Thank you again for you kind words.

@Scubelle I am so very sorry about the baby and my heartfelt condolences to both of you at this very sad time you will get the good days and the bad just do whatever you can with the good ones and get through the bad days.

Well done on your return to the running that will only help in the long run as for fasting return only ready to take on the fastdays 16:8 is a good option but if you can't lose it may end up becoming a little like "any old diet" out there which as you know this WOL isn't, when you're up to it maybe 1 x fastday each week and a couple of 16:8 that might work and still leave you with a few normal days because you will need those days both for your sanity and the running, just return when you know the time is right for you and we'll all be her for you as and when needed Yes I'm going nowhere for sometime yet coz of a small matter of 50lbs more to lose.

[Tracieknits]

Oh Scubelle, I am so very sorry for your loss. I just can't imagine.

Glad to have you back. Getting healthier can only help, in more ways than one. *hugs*

I am very fortunate not to have ever experienced what you've been through Scubelle but my heart goes out to you in your loss. What a sad time you've had recently so be gentle with yourself, listen to your body and your emotions and don't push yourself too hard. Running and eating healthily can only help you on your road to recovery and a happier outcome. Thinking of you x