I'm overwhelmed, so many lovely forum friends here, you have all made me feel so much better today. 
I can always cope with the odd plate of food sailing across the bedroom or the cups of tea flying down the stairs and out of the window - where would I be without the cheap supermarket mugs? What I find hardest though is the shouting. So loud! If the hurtful and shocking words were said in a quiet voice it wouldn't be nearly as bad but the noise makes my head ring.
I've had a look at the carer's support groups online, thanks to Bobshouse and gillymary. It seems I've missed the group meetings for this year in the nearest venues so I will be finding out if there is anything else available via the doctor's surgery.
That's one positive.
Sue.Q's Daily Confessional is another.
Convert52, he did lock me out and sometimes barricades the doors but he's not very good at it so I can get back indoors OK - I leave one of the windows slightly open just in case now! I'll be buying your recommended book so that's a positive too.
callyanna, I do talk to my son and daughter about what is happening and they try to support me as much as they can but they both have busy lives. I don't like to go on about it too much because he is their dad. I think most of my family know about his alcoholism but they all live so far away.
I might try being in control by not eating anything after 8 pm Manderlay, I did that for a while so should be able to do it again if only for a couple of days a week.
I'm so grateful for the help and advice from you all when I know that many of you have problems of your own as bad or worse than mine. Yesterday was a bad day but I always bounce back. I have a way of shutting the worst out, 'mind over matter' sort of thing - or daydreaming could be another word for it. I live in my own little world where the sun is always shining, flowers everywhere and all is well.
I can always cope with the odd plate of food sailing across the bedroom or the cups of tea flying down the stairs and out of the window - where would I be without the cheap supermarket mugs? What I find hardest though is the shouting. So loud! If the hurtful and shocking words were said in a quiet voice it wouldn't be nearly as bad but the noise makes my head ring.
I've had a look at the carer's support groups online, thanks to Bobshouse and gillymary. It seems I've missed the group meetings for this year in the nearest venues so I will be finding out if there is anything else available via the doctor's surgery.
That's one positive.
Sue.Q's Daily Confessional is another.
Convert52, he did lock me out and sometimes barricades the doors but he's not very good at it so I can get back indoors OK - I leave one of the windows slightly open just in case now! I'll be buying your recommended book so that's a positive too.
callyanna, I do talk to my son and daughter about what is happening and they try to support me as much as they can but they both have busy lives. I don't like to go on about it too much because he is their dad. I think most of my family know about his alcoholism but they all live so far away.
I might try being in control by not eating anything after 8 pm Manderlay, I did that for a while so should be able to do it again if only for a couple of days a week.
I'm so grateful for the help and advice from you all when I know that many of you have problems of your own as bad or worse than mine. Yesterday was a bad day but I always bounce back. I have a way of shutting the worst out, 'mind over matter' sort of thing - or daydreaming could be another word for it. I live in my own little world where the sun is always shining, flowers everywhere and all is well.
