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Spent to last 2 days with my poor sister watching her husband die. He passed away last night Today is fasting day for me and am finding it hard to focus. Today is a hard one.

[carorees]

Oh Felixcat, so sorry to hear that.

I wouldn't fast for the time being. I don't think you should give yourself any extra stress. Just try to eat healthily and wait until you feel mentally stronger before returning to fasting. Really, it is going to be tough for a few weeks while you support your sister, you can do without adding to the stress hormones by fasting.

Look after yourself now
[[[[hugs]]]]]

[Moogie]

So very sorry to hear of what you've just been through. My condolences to your family.

If you need some support, be it emotional or just encouragement for your fast just keep posting and we'll be here for you. Very proud of you for keeping to the fasting despite these difficult times, as it can be so easy to fall into comfort eating when things like this happen. What we all need at times like this is routine, a bit of 'normality' to help us get through each day. Fasting is part of your routine now and I'm sure it will help you through in some small way.

With love,
Moogie

EDIT: Caroline posted at the same time as me. Of course if you're finding fasting stressful then you should take a break for now. But I know for some people it can help relieve stress and add a sense of control (which can often otherwise be lost when situations like this arise, ones in which we are so helpless), so keep going if you feel it is beneficial, and don't if it's not!

So sorry to hear about your sad loss.
Sending love and cyber hugs to your sister and all the family. X

[carorees]

Caroline posted at the same time as me. Of course if you're finding fasting stressful then you should take a break for now. But I know for some people it can help relieve stress and add a sense of control (which can often otherwise be lost when situations like this arise, ones in which we are so helpless), so keep going if you feel it is beneficial, and don't if it's not!

Exactly!

For me (having been through a few bereavements now) I didn't fancy eating much so adding a fast after a day of not eating much anyway would have been too hard. Regaining a sense of control though is very important.

Felixcat, please do come on here to vent if you need to, we are here for you.

((((More hugs))))

[wildmissus]

I work for a funeral director so I've see a lot of people who deal with this situation in many different ways. There is no right or wrong thing to do to cope with it. It can be a time with a lot of family pressure. If you can, take some time out for yourself and do what is right for you. I do agree that routine is a good thing, so at least keep coming on the forum.

So sorry to hear about your loss.

What ever you decide to do under the circumstances will be fine. Its a decision only you can make.
Everyone here will support you what ever you end up doing.

Jacqui

Felixcat, I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
Thoughts to your sister xxx

So sorry to hear your sad news Felixcat.

Big hugs to you, your sister and your families. [[[[[[hugs]]]]]

[Tracieknits]

So sorry about your loss. I would give myself a few days off, personally, and make my next fast the day after the funeral. Right now, your sister needs your attention. If you can still manage a fast, great - but do not beat yourself up about it! It's just a few days.

You lovely people. Can you believe it but I kept my fast and had my 500calories in the form of red wine this evening.Not conducive to a healthy diet but it helped. Thankyou so much for your support so glad I have this forum

I kept my fast and had my 500calories in the form of red wine this evening.

It won't hurt once in a while. Whatever gets you through...

Very sorry to hear your sad news Felixcat. Sending hugs. Hope the wine helps you get some sleep xoxo

Felixcat..I am so sorry for your loss. You have been amazing to have fasted today at such a sad and stressful time. I hope the wee sense of control of calorie intake might have given you a tiny element of distraction today which might have helped you in your sad state...it's possible I suppose. Take care of yourself x

Hi Felixcat

So sorry to hear of your loss! Well done for keeping to your fast - but if, in the coming days you find a full day of fasting difficult - why not just miss out the odd meal or two, here and there?

Sort of 'mini-fasts'!

Very best wishes to you, B&W