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Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 11:56
As some of you may know, this year hasn't been the best for me so far - with a very poorly cat, delays and problems with our move, my pulmonary embolism and then my husband's job loss. I can't say I'm a big fan of 2014 so far.

Well, the move worked out in the end, Rich has just started a new job and my heart scan on Tuesday showed that things are getting back to normal (though it may yet be a while before the clots are gone, and I'm still not stable on warfarin).

Unfortunately one thing could not be made better. My Feebs. My precious little fuzzmonkey, fluffkins, the chanbambino. The cat of many names and so much love...

On Sunday last, at around 10.45am my darling furbaby left this world and crossed over the rainbow bridge, assisted by a vet. We don't know if it was the cancer or the CKD which took her in the end but she thankfully went down hill very quickly indeed without any major unpleasantness for her. The vet was lovely.

I'm devastated, so very lonely and I have a huge cat sized hole in my soul. I can't bring myself to clear away all her things. Her litter trays are still here and I don't want to empty them. Her water bowls remain full and I have to stop myself from getting her fresh water. I talk to her morning and night even though she's not here.

She was my very best friend for almost 17 years - over half my life - and my life won't be the same without her. I'm now a crazy cat lady without a cat, which given my talking to her in the beyond makes me just a crazy lady now.


So, the Sad Day I have dreaded for months finally came.

What can I say? I'm so grateful she stayed around to see me getting better and that I was well enough to cope with this. They say a cat with untreated lymphoma has around 6 weeks on average. Phoebe had 4 months. She was such a good girl.

Rest in peace Phoebe
06/06/97-04/05/14

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Phoebe as a tiny kitten

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Phoebe on her 16th birthday - so glad we made a fuss, it was to be her last.



The silver lining from this sad time is that we will be able to give a home to another cat who needs one. Or, in our case three. I think it'll take three to fill the hole in my soul. The rescue centre has a mummy cat and her kittens in need of homes and the minute we saw them a little of the hurt went away and there was love to replace it. Mitsie and Molly the kittens will be joining us in around 5-6 weeks when they are old enough. Mummy has to wait a few weeks beyond that for her health tests & neutering. We don't have a name for her yet.

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The new clan, arriving in 5-6 weeks
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:02
Moogie I'm so sorry. You certainly have been pulled through the ringer this year. It's hard to lose a beloved pet, they are part of the family. Big hugs and love from me. :heart:
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:05
{{{{Hugs}}}}
Old love, forever memories.
New clan, new beginings, new love.
Best Wishes for an improving 2014.
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:clover: :clover: :clover:
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:12
Those little bundles of fun will keep you more than occupied for a long time to come.
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Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:19
ah so sorry. Our cat went to heaven at 19 this year too. It is a very sad thing to go through. Your cat was well loved and will be playing and bouncing in cat heaven. Your new ones will be so much fun and bring you happiness.Life is such a beautiful and precious thing. My sympathies. x x
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:21
So very sorry Moogie. Your post just touched my heart to the point of tears. That shows your love. The warfarin process is very frustrating. Think of it as a diabetic blood sugar level. It takes a consistent routine of the right foods and exercise. You'll get there.
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:25
So sorry to hear of your loss, @Moogie. What a beautiful tribute & pictures. It seems things are going to turn a bit for you , especially with your new additions. Wishing you healing & sweet memories as you go on.
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:27
Oh big hugs to you Moogie!! Your new furbabies are gorgeous and will definitely help ease the pain. Phoebe will never be forgotten but the pain will lessen over time and all you'll remember is the love
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:27
sad and happy at the same time ...got tears in my eyes and then smiled when I saw the kitten pic and - smiled even more from the happy ending.

My oldest Ridgeback is 12.5 and that is a good age for a RR, all in Fiona's litter are dead by now. I know I won't be having her forever, but as you Moogie, she is my best friend and she have aged my life more than once. Each day with Fiona is precious (even though she do tend to whine a bit too much :wink: ) and I'm lucky, I have Arwen and chubby little Diego.

HUGS!!
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 12:47
Oh Moogie (((((((((hugs)))))))))

I know your pain. My beloved Chloe gone (12 years ago) before her time at only 10 years old, and my sweet beyond words Sugar, who went last year at 14. Both left huge cat shaped holes in our lives. Sugar's brother Harry was utterly desolate and heartbroken along with us, constantly crying and looking for her. :cry: We ended up getting a new cat quite quickly as he desperately needed someone to love and look after. Thea was damaged goods, quite literally. Badly injured in a car accident, she had lost a litter of kittens due to the accident, and her eyesight is wonky. She isn't like either of my previous girl cats in temperament but that's not a bad thing. She has helped us all (especially Harry) to heal. The sad thing is that she actually LOOKS very like Sugar, and sometimes I find I have to remind myself that she isn't :frown: I miss my loving lap-cat but then again Thea likes to be held and to rub heads, and she purrs louder than any cat I've ever known. So she brings here own unique set of joys.

I hope your new fur-babies bring you the fun and love that will help your sadness to ease. Lots of fluffy love in those three, and it's good that you are getting more than one cat. That's how we ended up with Harry and Sugar; I couldn't bear the idea of getting just one cat that wasn't Chloe.

Here's to a much nicer second half of 2014 for you. Heaven knows you deserve a break!
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 13:20
Oh @moogie, so sad. Being older than you I have had to say goodbye to a few dear cats. Offering another cat a loving home is a way of saying thank you to the one who has gone. After a while you will bond with the newcomers though at first you will mostly be aware of missing the departed.

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Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 13:37
I'm sorry Moogie it's horrible isn't it. Our last cat went 2 yrs ago and I do miss her. We have acquired another cat and she is lovely too. TBH we acquired all 3 of the cats we have had over the years.
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 13:44
So sorry about Phoebe we lost a rescue cat we had taken in this year, we only had her 2 years and that was hard enough, i don't know how i would be after 17 years.
Your new cats won't replace Phoebe but i'm sure will give you years of joy.
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 13:55
I'm so sorry for all your pain this year, Moogie. Your new kitties are beautiful. May you enjoy them for many years to come.
Re: Goodbye sweet Phoebe :(
09 May 2014, 14:45
It's a sad weekend on here with you losing Phoebe and PennyForthem facing losing her lovely dog . So sorry to hear your news Moogie..loved seeing Feebs pics,and her 16 th birthday card! Still looking youthful at sweet sixteen....
The new trio will help soothe your sadness but there will always be a Phoebe shaped hole in your heart.She was fortunate to have such a loving home,as are these new guys! X
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