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So sorry to hear you are in so much pain. So much good advice from those above. Perhaps when you have had some more rest you can get clear in your mind what was good in the relationship and what was not. Then at some point you probably need to speak to him - he seems to want to speak to you - if you feel he understands why you so hurt there may be a way forward, if he makes you feel bad again you probably need to walk away.In the mean time be kind to yourself. Hopefully by now some of your friends will be available for you to talk to in person.

Aw Danielle, you are feeling so hurt and your feelings are so raw at the moment so give yourself and your BF a breathing space to re-assess your relationship before making any rash decision you might both regret. It is possible he will realise how much he will lose by his behaviour last night and truly want to learn from it and put things right. For now, take comfort in your friends, cry, rant as much as you like and remember that if it was not to be then better to find out now. Big hugs!

[Debs]

I will second that ballerina, I am hovering during the day here and always ready to lend a listening ear and cyber shoulder to cry on.

Hi Danielle, hope things are seeming a bit better this morning than they did in the middle of the night. Hope you've managed to talk to friends or family about it - that always helps plus all the good advice already given here. Take care

Hello @danielle21711, like everyone else has said I am sorry you've had such a bad time and that you're feeling really down and that I was fast asleep when you needed a friend on line.

My dear mother used to say, "When one door shuts another door opens." Maybe something good is coming your way soon. So dry your eyes, take a deep breath and face the day. My best wishes go to out to you.

Nothing worse then a broken love. Warm hugs for you. Don't know what else to say because nobody can make it better for you. You go thru a mourning and you get up and move on. You look like a really cute and fun loving kid so I am sure your 'real' love is out there.

Ditto all the good advice and love, Danielle. My mother always used to say "this, too, shall pass". I do hope you are feeling better today.

Wow everyone thank you so much! You're all amazing, and made me burst into tears reading. Thank you so so so much.

I feel a lot better today. My 17 year old sister took me out to get my hair cut and my friend came round last night to keep me busy. I spoke to him last night and started wavering and then he wasn't very nice so I realised it's for the best.

I'll see how it goes thank you xxxxxx

[Debs]

He doesn't deserve you. Simple as that!

Sounds to me like @Debs is right
Someone much better waiting for you now you've made a space for him to come in..
Just give yourself some healing time.. X sending marshmallow hugs X

I've only just seen your post from yesterday. You've done the right thing as demonstrated by the way he responded on the phone last night. It doesn't sound as if he is likely to change - so stay strong! It might help you to clarify your true feelings if you wrote a list of reasons for staying with him and reasons for not - although personally I would find his attitude outweighing any more positive attributes he may have!

How lovely of your sister and friend to support you so well! In your photo you look young and pretty, so I'm sure that there are plenty more men out there for you to choose from - never accept second best!

There is good to come from this, you are exercising your values - to be treated with respect, from that follows true love if you keep that at the forefront of your mind it will help you feel strong moving forward. Remember there are wonderful fish out there who can bring you true happiness. Big hugs. Lizbean

It sounds like you have lots of support Danielle and are keeping strong. There will be sunshine in your life once again and a happy future so just be kind to yourself for now and lean on those who care about you x

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending. Onwards and upwards.

There is some really good advice and support here for you. Take some time to find yourself again and to recover. All this is learning experience and goes to make us better, stronger people. As many have said this chap doesn't deserve you and one day you will look back and think that thank goodness you were strong enough to make the decision now. Good luck and there will be someone fabulous out there for you