drgul wrote: I have similar issues . In my culture people forcefeed guest . They don't understand a NO. I have tried saying a no polietly it doesn't work... I dont understand how to tell these people without coming out bluntly. Please note these are the people who are dieting themselves but they get annoyed when i refuse an extra helping .
I had an aunt who was like that. Otherwise she was a fantastic person but she wanted people to eat for Greece and England and the planet, if pos.
When I was a child, I said no. I couldn't care less if I was rude or whatever, I just said a firm no. Growing up, I didn't want to upset her because I loved her very much, so I invented excuses. Depending on what she was offering I refused because:
I was fasting (Greek Orthodox religion has a variety of fasts, one person can literally fast every other day and nobody would bat an eyelid)
I had an allergy (I am allergic to pollen and broad beans, I just added a few more things that I was allergic to)
I had an irritable bowel (there go all the greens)
It was that time of the month and I didn't want anything too salty or too cold (water retention/tummy aches)
I was coming down with something (that covers a variety of reason to refuse food or drink)
I did a blood test and my doctor told me to avoid X, Y, Z
My poor aunty probably thought that I had the worse health ever but at least I wasn't letting her down and I got a lot of "oh poor you".