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I'm sorry you are sad right now Manderley. Don't be away from us for too long. Maybe that cleanse of yours has had a delayed reaction and thrown up some unwanted emotions.

Sorry you're struggling a little lately Manderlay
Breaks from routine are good for us just dont be away for to long or else we will have to spank you
Second thoughts i seem to remember you enjoying a little of that now + then enjoy your mini break, but don't push away the ones you love.

Just to make you smile and realise that my hoiiday did me good including a 5kg gain which I'm rapidly loosing or else
It's October 30 th and 9deg here in the uk a little sunny
and guess what i'm having for my lunch !!!
Yes a salad my fingers are completly white + very cold indeed but i need to keep on top of things coz i've still a very long way to go. Sue.

Oh Manderley,

You are having a bad time, I'm so sorry, there is nothing I can say or do to help you but here is a great big hug anyway...................... .................got it? Good, now don't you be away from this warm, comfortable place for too long or we will invade that dark cave of yours and drag you back kicking and screaming, O.K?

Ballerina x

Hi M - sorry to hear you've hit a rocky patch. Maybe it's the time of year, as well as everything else. It can be depressing this time of year, no wonder we get fed up. But you've done so well for so long, so don't get despondent. And your partner will be worried about you. Keep coming on here, even if just to have a vent. You know there are people who will listen and take you seriously. Take care

(((hugs)))

Thank you so much girls for all your hugs and your support. You don’t know how much it means to me and how move I am to see so many lovely people. We are a strong community and, to be honest, I didn’t know it existed before I came here. That’s why I am neither on Facebook and twitter. All is not so back or white that I thought it was, it’s one of the big lessons I learned these past months.

I was overwhelmed by a lot of things happening, problems with my landlord who harasses me, money problems and no idea when I’ll be able to find a proper job again and my pride which makes me keeping all that to myself because I don’t want pity and I want to prove that I can deal with whatever comes. You know it becomes a bit like a pressure cooker and, one day or another, the steam must go and when it does go it goes all at once. Not a good way to deal with things. I am a big anxious person and it’s becoming a bit hard to deal with everything.

I also think this time of year is not a good time. Don’t get me wrong, I love autumn, the colors, the smells, the vegs, but the fact that at 5:30PM you have to put the lights on drives me crazy. I am not a bit sunshine fan, however, I think I miss the sun…

My partner and I don’t live together and you may be surprised how good I am to put on a mask and act “like everything is fine” so he has no clue about what’s happening right now. Why I don’t talk to him about it ? My pride. And the fact that we don’t know each other long enough for me to be that vulnerable.

So…. I am back, my thoughts in order, even if I still don’t know when I’ll find a proper work and nothing really changed. I am doing the 30 day shred early in the morning and 1h bike every day. My goal is to go to 2h bike at the end of this month. I also enjoy my only fast of this week. I waited until I needed it and I really felt a need to do it last night. Tonight I’ll have a nice salad and a small cup of soup to keep warm and until then I’ll have coffee (well, not too much or I won’t sleep or only 3 hours like most of this week).

Oh and I tried to do some microwave scrambled eggs and the result was amazing. I was really surprised. I put them in a cup and in less than 2 minutes they were ready and really delicious. Another good reason to keep the microwave !

Hi Manderley,

Lovely to see you back, I was thinking about you this morning and decided that I'd PM you today, but up you've popped so no need for me now to invade your dark cave and nag you to come back. So nice to see you posting again. You sound a bit better so that's a good thing. Keep posting

Ballerina x

So glad to see you back, Manderley. We are all rooting for you.

I'm a big believer in imagining putting your worries inside a big balloon on a string, and letting it fly away, and then expect for better things. Release your worries to the universe my darling. Create space for new things around the corner. So glad you are back with us.

Great to hear that all's (relatively) ok, Manderley. I agree this time of year can be strange - lots of ups and downs, to go with the change of season. Hang in there, and remember that time when you came on here in the summer, and talked to us about how you were nervous about telling your partner how you felt about him? And all turned out well. Maybe, just maybe it's time to tell him of at least some of your worries ... you may be surprised, and more than a bit comforted

Hi Manderlay
Glad you're back with us and feeling a little better at least
Good Luck with sorting out one or two problems and
Best of luck job hunting Sue.

Like how rawkaren says put your problems into a balloon and let the universe take care of them, there is another technique and that it put into a pink bubble what you imagine the job you would like to have now which would work for you and which uses your talents and abilities and the kind of people you would like to work with and for and let that bubble go, now when you get anxious about not having work, instead of worrying put your energy about strengthening that bubble and seeing you smiling in that pink bubble happy at work at you new job.

You are doing well, hang in there

When I was teaching Reception aged children (4 and 5 year olds), we used to have 'circle time' every day when they all had the opportunity to talk about their news etc. We also used to pass round the 'worry bag' and any child who was upset or worried about something could put their worry in the bag which was then tied up at the end of the session and all the worries thrown in the bin.
Any similar imagery as @rawkarensays could help you deal with any concerns in your life.
Best of luck anyway

First of all, thank you all for the support, it means the world to me, really.

The big balloon is a good idea, I’ll try it. It reminds me of a Dharma & Greg episodes where they put their sins in big bubbles


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EItq2DMJReA


Silverdarling, I can’t talk about it to my partner. We have very different views on things he is a bit rough on the edges and it’s not what I need right now. I don’t want dark clouds in our relationship, I have enough on my plate. Plus, it’s difficult to explain but I need to have a place where all this troubles don’t exist. I am the kind who have boxes and separate things, I need that to function properly. It’s not his fault, it’s just my way of dealing with things.

This attitude of mine surely comes from the fact that since I left my parents house, 16 years ago, I always lived alone (well, with my cats). I had relationships but lived alone. I couldn’t live with somebody, I would suffocate really quickly. So I am used to deal with things on my own and it’s not possible for me, at this point, to do it another way.

For now I am more positive, my next project is to find a proper job to be able to move from where I live. And I’ll give a try to the bubbles and balloons. Who knows, it can work… I even have a stone which is supposed to protect me….

I love the idea of the 'big balloon' and the 'worry bag', they both sum up exactly how I used to look and feel, joke, honest! I actually think they are both wonderful tools of imagery and if you can use either/or both techniques then it may help you deal with things. I know what you mean about compartments as I am a little like this myself, good luck,

Ballerina x