Debs wrote: Hi All,
Yes, BSD for me with odd fast days and lapses! Yesterday was a lapse day, but, and this is a big but, I lapsed with nuts and cream, not with chocolate, aka sugar. I had a stinker at work and laid into the cashews in a big way. Previously it would have been sugary chocolate so I consider that I have come a long way since then.
Bean, as Sassy said, why do you think you are reaching for the chocolate? Is it the sugar or hormonal? I have found that increasing my fat intake practically eliminates my sugar cravings. I do over the 800 cals as a result but I'd rather that than start stuffing myself with Lindt milk chocolate with hazelnuts (or would I?

)
Tracie has the balance right, enough treats to not feel deprived but not so many (well apart from the odd champers

) to do consistent damage.
Deb
I agree with Deb -- when I'm craving sugar, and I want to bust that craving, I eat fat and protein -- a piece of cheese is the PERFECT sugar buster for me, and it doesn't even have to be a large piece. An ounce/30g is plenty, often more than enough. When I'm trying to really watch the calories, I might have a couple of slices of sliced deli turkey -- 2 ounces is 0 points on weight watchers, so it's free. Or a devilled egg/oeuf mimosa. Yes it's as much more even more calories than the chocolate would be, but I think it's better for my system. It truly seems to bust the cravings.
I aim for three or four bits of chocolate a week. My current favorite is Dove truffles, which are a bit pricey, come individually wrapped and are 60 calories each/3 weight watchers points. The peanut butter are divine and have a bit more protein and a bit less sugar. I make it a ritual -- pour myself a decaf espresso, get a little dish and sit at the table. Or we take macarons out of the freezer (they're quite small) - I forget how many calories - maybe 80? they're 3 weight watchers points for two cookies. Again, I have them on a plate with a decaf espresso and eat them mindfully and slowly, making a point of savoring them.
I have a plan to allow a full bottle of champagne every week. Usually that means two nights a week we share a bottle. Sometimes that means we share a bottle one night, and then two other nights each I have a 187ml split. And it's champagne for two reasons -- champagne has the fewest calories/least sugar of all wines and also because it just feels special. It feels like a luxurious treat, even when it's a cheap cremant or petillant (which honestly, it usually is). And I am taking my treats very seriously

But I count the calories/points and I make sure I'm mindful of what I'm doing.
It works for me. I don't believe I could stick with any plan where there are no treats.